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HOW DOES BEING THE CYCLE BREAKER OF MY FAMILY AFFECT ME?
"WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME? WHY DOES EVERYONE ELSE GET TO BE HAPPY AND I DON'T? AM I TOO UNLOVABLE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP? WILL I EVER BE TALENTED OR SUCCESSFUL ENOUGH?"
THESE THOUGHTS ARE COMMON FOR SO MANY OF US - BUT YOU MAY NOT REALIZE THAT THEY ARE TIED TO YOUR EXPERIENCE AS A BLACK SHEEP.
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YOU NEVER HAD ROOM TO EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS BEFORE BEING CALLED A "CRYBABY," "DRAMATIC," "SELFISH," OR "OVERLY SENSTIVE."
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YOU MAY HAVE BEEN TOLD TO "TOUGHEN UP" AND STOP BURDENING EVERYONE AROUND YOU WITH YOUR EMOTIONS. YOU WERE OFTEN LEFT TO MAKE SENSE OF THINGS ALONE.
THE LABELS AND WORDS YOUR FAMILY USED TO DESCRIBE YOU DON'T JUST DISAPPEAR WITH AGE - THEY BECOME INTERNLIZED AS PART OF YOUR IDENTITY.
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AS AN ADULT, YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF FEELING UNLOVABLE, ISOLATED, OR INHERENTLY DIFFERENT FROM OTHERS.
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THESE FEELINGS AREN'T RANDOM - THEY'RE A RESULT OF YOUR EXPERIENCE AS THE BLACK SHEEP AND CYCLE BREAKER OF YOUR FAMILY.
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SELF-WORTH COACHING ISN'T ABOUT REHASHING EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR PAST. IT'S ABOUT LIBERATING YOU FROM THE WORTHINESS WOUNDS THAT LINGER AS A RESULT OF YOUR BLACK SHEEP EXPERIENCE.
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"I DO EVERYTHING FOR EVERYONE ELSE - WHY CAN'T THEY EVER SHOW UP FOR ME?"
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"EVERY DECISION I'VE EVER MADE WAS TO MAKE MY PARENTS HAPPY. SO WHY DO THEY KEEP TREATING ME LIKE I'M STILL NOT ENOUGH? THEY KEEP MOVING THE GOAL POST, AND I'M FREAKING EXHAUSTED."
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"EVERYONE ELSE HAS THEIR LIFE ALL FIGURED OUT. THE GOOD-ON-PAPER JOBS, THE GOOD-ON-PAPER HUSBANDS...WHEN WILL IT BE MY TURN?"
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"I'M SO EXHAUSTED FROM TRYING TO CHECK ALL THE BOXES. I NEVER LET MYSELF REST BECAUSE I'LL JUST END UP FALLING EVEN MORE BEHIND."
SHAME IS AT THE ROOT OF ALL OF THESE THOUGHTS.
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AS A BLACK SHEEP, WE INTERNALIZE SHAME AT A YOUNG AGE BECAUSE OF THE WAY THAT WE'RE TREATED AND DISMISSED. YOUR PARENTS/CAREGIVERS DIDN'T CONSIDER YOU, YOUR NEEDS, OR YOUR FEELINGS WHEN MAKING MOST OF THEIR DECISIONS.
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DEEP DOWN, THOUGHTS LIKE "I DON'T MATTER" OR "I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH TO BE LOVED" START TO FORM.
THIS IS EXACTLY WHY IT'S HARD FOR YOU TO
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BE SEEN,
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BE VULNERABLE/OPEN WITH OTHERS,
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SET & VOCALIZE BIG GOALS FOR YOURSELF,
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COMMIT TO LONG-TERM DECISIONS
BUT DOING THINGS THAT MIGHT RISK YOU FAILING, MAKING A MISTAKE, OR BEING JUDGED BY OTHERS ALSO MEANS YOU'RE LIVING AN AUTHENTIC AND EMPOWERED LIFE.
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I KNOW YOU'RE TIRED OF PUTTING YOURSELF ASIDE TO MAKE OTHERS HAPPY.
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I KNOW YOU'RE TRYING TO ESCAPE THE MOMENTS WHERE YOU HAVE TO BE ALONE, REST, OR SIT IN SILENCE BECAUSE IT'S HARD TO BE WITH YOURSELF - MOSTLY BECAUSE YOU DON'T RECOGNIZE WHO YOU ARE.
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I KNOW YOU ONLY RECOGNIZE YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE DOING FOR OTHERS. BUT TRULY, WHEN WILL YOUR LIFE START? WHEN WILL YOU HAVE PRODUCED AND DONE ENOUGH FOR OTHERS THAT YOU FINALLY ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE A PRIORITY?
WHEN WILL FEAR AND SHAME STOP BEING THE LEADING VOICE IN YOUR HEAD GUIDING ALL YOUR DECISIONS? YOU ARE MORE THAN THE SHAME YOU CARRY. YOU ARE MORE THAN THE FEARS YOU HAVE. YOU CAN UNCOVER YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF AND START LIVING A LIFE THAT IS UNAPOLOGETICALLY YOU.
MY COACHING PROGRAMS AND SESSIONS ALWAYS INCLUDE EMBODIMENT PRACTICES THAT REGULATE YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM BECAUSE OF THE SHAME WE HOLD AS BLACK SHEEP. WITHOUT SETTING TIME AND INTENTION BEHIND PROCESSING AND RELEASING THE SAME, YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS WILL CONTINUE TO CHOOSE THE SAME PATTERNS THAT HELP IT FEEL SAFE.
SELF-WORTH COACHING EMPHASIZES HOLISTIC METHODS TO ENSURE THAT YOU HAVE THE TOOLS TO REGULATE YOURSELF LONG AFTER WE'RE FINISHED WORKING TOGETHER.
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M. Mutmainnah
Roshni is very attentive and compassionate. Roshni really understood why I was seeking validation as a body-led response and made me understand that I can make myself feel emotionally safe. Roshni made me feel empowered and I felt heard and safe.
j. andrews
The fear exercise in particular has helped me identify how often I use fear as a distraction and how often I allow it to shape my everyday actions. Taking the time to consider fear-based possibilities and work through potential outcomes will be a tool I use to shift my perspective of situations and my relationship to my own fear more generally.
Kirti p.
[After working with Roshni], I'm able to connect with my intuition and deeper knowing. I feel more confident when it comes to making decisions for me, versus constantly feeling like I have to justify my decisions to others.
neelam p.
I felt like instead of dreaming and becoming my Highest Self, this program helped me see and create a relationship with that higher self that can't be unseen or uncreated. It's the bridge I've made contact with in the past and was inpsiring, but now I can feel that bridge under my feet.
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OUR SOCIETY AND FAMILIES TEACH US THAT THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY TO ACHIEVE VALIDATION: BY FULFILLING THEIR EXPECTATIONS. WE HAVE A DEEP FEAR OF NOT HAVING THEIR VALIDATION BECAUSE WE’RE SO USED TO EXPERIENCING CONDITIONAL LOVE.
YOU DESERVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. YOU DESERVE TO KNOW YOUR WORTH.
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LEARNING HOW TO RECOGNIZE AND BUILD YOUR WORTH GIVES YOU THE FREEDOM TO STOP SEEKING VALIDATION FROM OTHERS.
WHEN YOU STOP NEEDING VALIDATION FROM OTHERS, YOU FEEL LESS STRESSED, LESS OVERWHELMED, AND SO MUCH MORE SECURE IN WHO YOU ARE.
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THAT FEELING OF SECURITY IS THE SAFETY NET YOU NEED TO TAKE RISKS, SET BOUNDARIES, COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS, AND PURSUE OPPORTUNITIES THAT REQUIRE VULNERABILITY - THE FORMULA FOR YOUR DREAM LIFE.
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I AM NOT A GURU. I AM A PROFESSIONAL PROCESSOR.
AS A COACH, I AM NOT INTERESTED IN TELLING YOU EXACTLY WHAT TO DO. I'M NOT TRYING TO SQUEEZE YOU INTO A PRE-EXISTING FORMULA. I DON'T HAVE ONE METHOD YOU NEED TO FIT INTO OR ONE FOOLPROOF WAY FOR YOU TO LIVE YOUR LIFE.
TO DO SO WOULD BE DISINGENOUS - I AM NOT THE EXPERT ON YOUR LIFE. YOU ARE.
I TRUST THAT YOU KNOW WHAT'S RIGHT FOR YOU - I'M JUST HELPING YOU GET THERE.
WHAT I AM HERE TO DO IS HELP YOU UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR EMOTIONS ARE COMING FROM AND RECOGNIZE PATTERNS YOU REPEAT IN YOUR LIFE. I'M HERE TO DIVE INTO THE PARTS OF YOUR LIFE THAT FEEL "STUCK."
LEARNING ABOUT YOUR PATTERNS AND LIMITING BELIEFS IS THE FIRST STEP IN MAKING LIFE CHOICES THAT FEEL AUTHENTIC TO YOU (INSTEAD OF MAKING DECISIONS TO PLEASE OTHERS OR BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID OF WHAT THEY'LL SAY).
THE PROCESS OF REBUILDING THE FOUNDATION OF A MORE AUTHENTIC LIFE ISN'T EASY, NOR DOES IT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT.I WILL WORK WITH YOU TO HELP YOU STAY ON TRACK WITH THE DECISIONS AND BOUNDARIES YOU SET WHEN YOU FEEL EMPOWERED SO YOU CAN UPHOLD THEM WHEN YOU DON'T.Â
BY COMBINING CONVERSATIONAL METHODS AND WRITTEN MEDIUMS WITH EMBODIMENT PRACTICES SUCH AS EFT, NLP, BREATHING TECHNIQUES, AND OTHER SOMATIC EXERCISES, YOU'LL START TO BUILD A REAL FOUNDATION OF SELF-TRUST, SELF-WORTH, SELF-LOVE, AND SELF-RESPECT.
THE BASIS OF MY COACHING IS TO ADDRESS THE GUILT AND SHAME THAT ARISE AS A RESULT OF THE BLACK SHEEP EXPERIENCE. AS YOU START TO LIVE MORE AUTHENTICALLY, THE GUILT AND SHAME WILL START TO TAKE OVER, WHICH IS WHEN YOU START TO DOUBT YOURSEF. COMBINING THE BODY, MIND, AND SOUL IN OUR COACHING SESSIONS ALLOWS YOU TO PURSUE YOUR HEALING IN A FOCUSED AND SUSTAINABLE WAY.  Â
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